“What happened to my marriage?” is the deeply troubling and personal question in the hearts of Rock House Center clients looking for a pathway to a restored marriage. While the details of each situation are unique, the root cause and the way out of the suffering are actually very consistent. So much so that we have come to refer to this foundational issue of a struggling marriage as Cause #1. We haven’t identified a Cause #2, because we have not seen anything else more prevalent in challenged marriages. The #1 answer, of course, is God’s pathway to restoration.

 It is commonly said that “likes attract”, while others declare with equal confidence that “opposites attract”. Either way, there is also the underlying belief that for whatever reason these personalities do mysteriously attract, they are meant to be together. Most beliefs about attraction include the assumption that the attraction is destined to result in marriage or at least a relationship which will bless them both. As a res...